If you have Chiron in Aries then you need to own your right to be here. Because if you don’t, you’ll go through life NOT getting your needs and wants met, just as you have in the past. Particularly in your relationships. If you don’t sort this out you’ll eventually reach a point where you know it’s time to heal your Aries energy because you’ll realize life is passing you by and everyone else is getting ahead in their relationships, career and life – except you.
Aries is the first sign of the zodiac. In the northern hemisphere Aries marks the start of Spring when nature bursts forth after the hibernation of Winter. Healthy Aries is “I am”, “I have a right to be here”. For Aries life is about strong will power and loads of self-belief. Courage to go for what you want. And expecting to get it. Ruled by Mars, Aries is a cardinal action sign. It’s all about self-agency, self-belief, and innate self-confidence. Let’s go for it. Aries literally cannot not do. So when Chiron the wounded healer and teacher sits in Aries in your chart, you’ve got work to do around healing the blows to your self worth growing up, and learning how to do healthy self-assertion Aries-style in the areas of life that matter the most to you.
Here’s how Chiron in Aries can play out:
7 Ways Chiron In Aries Shows Up In Your Life
#1 People pleasing
Growing up you never felt you had a right to even be here. Chiron in Aries often indicates growing up in an argumentative, adversarial home life. So people pleasing became your modus operandi to stay safe. You became an expert at appeasing others, focusing on their wants and needs to stay out of the firing line. It’s also how you got approval.
#2 Disappearing the real you
It’s hard to relax and just be yourself when you’re growing up around conflict. It feels way too vulnerable to let people see the real you. With Chiron in Aries often when you did reveal your true self growing up you most likely copped it. Maybe you were shamed, ridiculed or even bullied. You were just being spontaneously you, but the environment you were in didn’t support this. So you learnt it wasn’t safe to be who you really are.
#3 Not having a voice
Not speaking up when you need to is another common theme. Whether that’s in your relationships or career. So you settle for far less than you deserve and end up feeling resentful. Defaulting to passive aggressive vibe manoeuvres that basically get you nowhere.
#4 Not making the money you deserve
This often plays out as always falling short with money. Or getting stuck in feast and famine cycles around money and abundance. Because on the inside your main expectation is one of lack and never enough. So feast and famine cycles play out continuously in your life.
#5 Getting taken advantage of financially because you can’t stand your ground
Because deep down your self worth is wounded you don’t feel you deserve to be well paid or well off financially. So you work too hard to prove your worth. Then you’re taken advantage of because other people sense your lack of self-esteem and self-value. So you become the dogs body and repeatedly taken advantage of. Only to discover that other people at work who are doing far less than you are being paid more than you are. Usually because they know how to ask for what they want – and get it.
#6 Picking partners who just aren’t good for you
Because the messages you got growing up were that you weren’t good enough, or okay just as you are, you interpreted this as there being something wrong with you. That you were lacking or defective in some way. Which just isn’t true. So you jump into relationships too fast. Often with the first person who shows you a bit of interest. Because you’re relieved that someone is interested in you, there’s no preselection process or due diligence going on. Then the honeymoon phase ends and you realize you’re with someone who’s emotionally abusive, self-serving, or just totally the wrong fit for you. But because you’ve been emotionally starved growing up and don’t love yourself enough, you tolerate all sorts of stuff until the whole thing blows up. This leads into my last point.
#7 Staying stuck and not knowing when to move on
Because you haven’t developed the capacity to fully self actualize and have self agency in your life, you don’t know when it’s time to move on and get yourself out of situations that are toxic. So you cling to people and situations where your emotional, relational and security needs will never be met. Hoping that one day things will come good. It’s only when Pluto and Uranus transits intervene, or you attract Plutonic or Uranian types into your energy field that things finally come to a head and you’re finally chewed up and spat out and forced to move on. It’s only then that you can see how bad things really were. You then wonder WHY you stayed and endured with gritted teeth and clenched fists for so long.
If you have Chiron in Aries and can relate to any of these 7 points it’s time to sort this out. You need to embrace your own power and go for what you really want in life. Because it’s real life experiences that build self-confidence and trust in your own will and ability to manifest what you want. Heal Chiron in your chart and Chiron becomes your powerful ally. You’re able to do high-self-worth and attract better quality people and situations into your life. Most importantly, you stop feeling guilty for taking up space and having your own wants and needs – and going for what you really want.
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This is exactly what I needed to read! I have Chiron in Aries in the 7th, opposite North Node. I came into this world fighting for my life, as a late term miscarriage to a drug addicted mother who passed when I was still an infant, and an absent, alcoholic father. I was adopted by my maternal grandparents after my mother’s death and was constantly reminded by a resentful, cold, emotionally abusive grandmother how I was “dumped on her” just when the last of her 4 children were about to become of age to flee the nest.
I wasn’t allowed to express my ideas or opinions without being completely shot down or met with fierce opposition and more abuse. Expressing any ounce of anger meant getting my ass kicked. In early school life I was frequently banned from recess, put at the end of the line, chosen last. I clung to friends and adopted their mannerisms/personalities because I had no idea how to be my own person. My guardians charged me monthly rent (1/2 my paycheck) when I did get a job for the years of “pain & suffering” I caused them and for the financial burden I put on them for having to pay my school tuition and basic medical care, yet they refused to allow me to move out when I was of age. In my early relationships I was mostly a dormat and taken advantage of with more mental/emotional abuse to the point that the universe seemed to be offering me “exit points” from life itself…with me finding myself in many near-death scenarios.
I finally rebelled, with the help of God and chanted all of that. My physically abusive grandfather stopped hitting me the day I impulsively took a swing at him before he could hit me and knocked his glasses off his face. Stunned, he silently walked away and never laid a hand on me again. When I finally saved up enough in my secret account, I moved out. After gramps died, his children forced grandma to sell the house and they took over her life the way she did mine. She meekly asked me if I could move in with her (so she could use me as a scapegoat or buffer for what was coming her way) I laughed and told her point blank to F off and to enjoy a taste of what she did to me all my life.
I am my own boss now in a lucrative business of my own. Friends seek me out as the go-to person for relationship advice (thanks to the many years I struggled in my own) business and financial advice. I hold my own in a great marriage now where my husband respects me and encourages me to stand up to everyone including him. He calls me his “rock” and I’m seen as the glue that holds things (and people) together.
I enjoy my own company and don’t feel the need for others in my life, including my husband as we work different hours and aren’t in each other’s space 24/7, am totally independent, self-reliant, and have my own personal style and unique personality that I am completely unapologetic about.
Thank you so much for sharing your story here. Your courageous and amazing journey will help and inspire so many others who read this. You reclaimed your power and self worth by digging in deep, connecting with God and asking for help, and then listening to that powerful voice inside. When you decided enough was enough and asked for help from those invisible forces, your whole world started to change. I love this. You’re showing so many young people out there that you don’t have to let your early circumstances and toxic family relationships define you and your future life. That all of us deserve to be treated with love and respect and get whatever we want out of life. The rewards of having done the deep and oh so difficult journey that you have done is that you then start to kick #ss in ALL areas of your life – your business, your marriage, your friendships and whatever else you choose to focus on.
You’ve made self worth your birthright, as it should have been from the moment you drew your first breath. Your journey has been enormous because when you grow up with no real sense of Self, no mother and an absent alcoholic father it’s a huge undertaking to grow your own sense of self. People sense this and that’s why even at school you were pushed to the end of the line. People feel they can walk all over you. You’ve not only grown a Self, but you’re also rocking your own unique style and personality – unapologetically. This is BIG and unless someone’s grown up with no real sense of Self and who they really are, it’s hard for most peeps to fathom the size of this task. Let alone surviving the type of family you grew up around.
When we’re infants and small children we don’t have much say in things because we’re powerless and totally dependent on the adults around us to survive. Until we get old enough to start questioning and then challenging toxic abuse, blatant unfair favouritism and all the other crap that goes on in dysfunctional families. Chiron in the 7th when you choose to raise your vibration and step over horrible family or relationship circumstances (like you did) then makes you the ‘go to’ person for help and advice on a whole range of things. That’s why your friends value your insights and advice, because you’re walking your talk and they see all that you’ve achieved. Your husband totally backs you and encourages you to keep on being YOU! Attracting your husband into your life is yet more feedback on all the great inner and outer work you have done. You’re now holding a light for so many others out there who need guidance and hope during difficult times.
that is so inspiring .
thankyou
Thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like an incredible journey and it brought tears to my eyes. I had a rough childhood but not nearly as bad as yours. Somehow you pulled it together with the odds stacked against you. That gives me hope that I will someday be whole.
To Venus Astro:
Thank you for your loving response to this woman’s post. I have Chiron in Aries in the 3rd house and this post is the first I’ve read that is dead on to how I felt growing up and still feel deep down today. I’ve done a lot of inner spiritual work and am considered strong and successful in life. But I still have issues to work through. This post helped me identify where I still have skeletons in my closet. Thank you for that!
I really enjoyed reading this!
I have Chiron in Aries – not sure which house?
At the moment I relate to all 7 of the points above and my whole world seems to have come to a head – financially, psychologically and personally (relationships etc).
I grew up in a home where I was the one to shut down.
If I spoke I was physically and verbally bullied and I learnt to appease and shapeshift.
I am stuck in every area of my life and feel I have reached a point of now or never.
But it was good to see how my world developed on paper.
Thanks for helping me better understand my struggles.
This is me. It explains so much. I’ve been working really really hard for decades to overcome these obstacles and 2017 was the year I started fighting for me. It was painful to lose people and find the courage to stand up for myself, but I’m doing it. I’m doing it.
thank you!! this is so good, I am having the return of chiron so I am doing self healing visualizations about abundance blocks, only to find out that they are related to self-worth.
Yes, I actually relate to all of the 7 points. I was born to teenage mom who was physically and emotionally abused and disowned. My father was also abusive to us. I was the perfect child but always was being punished. I am now almost 50 and constantly working to stand up for myself which is exhausting. Therapy is a process for me to help stand up for myself but patterns of trying to avoid appease and blame myself are present still. I am glad I found this list today to work on this core healing.
I love to see all my Chiron in Aries siblings here, hi! 🙂
I have Chiron in 0 degree Aries in 6 th House so I’ll be one of the first of us to “feel it.” Or on April first.
Thank you for this thoughtful article, I relate to all f the points more or less.
I wasn’t wanted. My mom was contemplating on leaving my dad when she discovered that she was pregnant with me but then she decided to stay with him for few years more. She didn’t really want to be a mom any longer, she had the perfect boy and a girl already. She let my sister babysit my and she hated it.
Nothing I did was of any value, not helping doing chores not playing games with the kids. I was “always in the way” my sister even told her friends to ignore me.
I was the ghost my family wanted to ignore.
I’ve heard we Chiron in Aries folks are tough and we don’t have time to think that we were ever victims. I certainly don’t. I love my life and thank God for all my life lessons, good or bad, doesn’t matter, and I wouldn’t have want to be without all the excellent lessons learned from being in abusive relationship either lol
And now, when I stand alone, captain on my own ship, I feel so grateful and thankful for everything. Every day is a beautiful gift.
Thank you.
You have written my life and struggles.
All of these 7 points hit home so hard it made my blood boil.
I wish I had known these things 30 years ago, then again this life would have been useless as this is exactly what I came here to learn in this lifetime: Self-worth.
Feeling of abandonment at birth (sick mom was hospitalised right after I was born), childhood sexual abuse and a dysfunctional family lead to narcissistic and mentally ill girlfriends, psychopath friends and associates, deception in business ventures, extreme people pleasing, not speaking up when I should have,…
After I filed a complaint in 2016 against my childhood abuser and got death threats after that, I slowly started to grow into my power. I started to speak up for myself.
Friends fell away like leaves from a tree. Scammers didn’t trick me anymore. Family members ad others stopped playing the bully.
At the end of 2018 the Universe led me into a terrible relationship once again. Yet this time I opened my mouth. When I did, the woman was so startled she called her brothers for help. The power behind my words was a hurricane with a clear message: don’t fuck with me you lying psycho.
And that was the end of that with toxic girlfriends.
In June 2019 I cleared out the last bit of family bullying, again by speaking up. The end of silence.
So here I am, cleared 6 points out of 7. The remaining issue is the issue of all issues for me with Chiron in house 10: money & career.
With Chiron currently in Aries I to clear this any day now. It’s just a matter of sending out the right vibe to the Universe and trusting it will all be well.
My website is up and running, people appreciate my work and I’m simply excellent in what I do.
The rest will be history and my Chiron will be completely healed.
Shout out to all other Warriors here.
Thank you for sharing your journey which will help and inspire so many others who read this. Clearly you have done a lot of hard work in learning how to stand in your power and own your value and worth and this will start to impact your career and earning potential. Chiron in the 10th House is a powerful placement when you do the personal development work required to heal your core woundings. Vulnerabilities then become strengths. There’s always a positive ripple effect when you commit to the self-development and self-awareness path in ALL areas of your life, so like you said it’s about putting out positive vibes to the Universe, having clear, consistent (very important) intentions, knowing that in the right time great things will happen for you. That this is your birth right.